Sunday, March 29, 2009

Some numbers.

Hmm. A few days. A week? A little more than a week.

Ten days.

Ten days is a long time, right? A week of camp is only five days, and if done right, it can feel pretty close to eternal. Ten days is darn close to forever.

I have this theory called India Age. Before I explain it, let me promise that it's completely flawed for many, many reasons. But I've been thinking about it, so I've decided to type it up.

Okay, so...I'm nineteen. I've met a few travelers here who are nineteen, three eighteen. And I'm friends with a lot of people who are in their mid-late twenties and early thirties. But what's strange is this: I've found that I never believe the people who tell me they're eighteen, nineteen, twenty. They look and act so much older. I tell them they're lying. They're really twenty-seven. And then when I admit to being nineteen, everyone looks at me funny and says "no you're not. Wait, really? You don't act like you're nineteen." And though they assure me that I don't seem nineteen, they can't tell me what age they thought I was.

A few days ago, I stayed up super-late with a guy from Australia, a girl from Holland, and a few other Americans (there haven't been many Americans in Paragon until recently; I don't know why they all decide to come to Kolkata in time for sweltering heat). After being generally giggly and joking about metaphysics (it was a fantastic group), we got to talking about age. Turns out there were two nineteens, one twenty-four, one twenty-five, one twenty-seven, and one twenty-eight. And the guy that I had clicked best with was, in fact, the oldest, and I was the youngest. And I didn't believe Simone when she said she was nineteen, and no one believed me until I showed them the graduation date on my IWU shirt.

Thus, I'm starting to think that maybe technical age, in terms of time spent on earth, isn't something we think about here.

I think we tend to think about age a lot in the States because it's easy to compare people by age. We're all on vaguely the same path - high school, college, job, family (which is a silly set of restrictions, p.s.), so it's easy to think of someone who's older as having generally more life experience. Here? No. We're all in India. We're all experiencing something completely new, and it's as if the moment our planes land our age hits the reset button. And I've noticed that it seems we all interact as if we're exactly the same age, with one clear exception: those who have been here longer are communicated with as if they're older, and the people who have been here for less time act more like worried children or teenagers concerned about their impression on others. Which creates an odd social conundrum for me, because I'm technically the baby of nearly every group, but I'm treated as one of the oldest because I've been here for four months.

Hm.

Second topic involving numbers: the temperature. It's freaking hot. This hot. But it feels hotter. I've never felt this type of heat. It feels thick, like constant damp heaviness pressing in on all sides. It's hard to breathe. It's near impossible to sleep. I've been waking up with migraines from the pressure. I asked Reshma (at Apne Aap) if it gets hotter, and she said yes. Much hotter. The forecast is 100 for the day I leave.

Third topic, then I'm off to Kalighat.

Money. Gosh, money is weird. For the next two weeks, I'm literally living off of two dollars a day, not counting rent. This is quite easy to do here.

Walk to Motherhouse: free.
Breakfast: free.
Bus to Kalighat: 4 rupees.
Tea at Kalighat: free.
Metro to Park Street: 2 rupees.
Lunch at Apne Aap: free.
Auto to Park Street: 6 rupees.
Dinner at Khalsa, Tirupati, wherever: approximately 25 rupees.
Water during the day: 20 rupees.
Internet: 20 rupees.

Actually, that's 52 rupees. Which is a dollar.

And then there's rent, which is 125 rupees a day.

That's around 180 rupees a day, which is about $3.50.

The exchange rate is so screwy.

I'll write more about this later.
About how McDonald's is one of the most expensive restaurants in Kolkata.

It's Kalighat time.

Love and numbers,
Stephanie

3 comments:

Beth Nudelman said...

Stephanie -

The age phenomena you describe is not unusual; it's just that people "your age" don't usually experience it yet, because they haven't had enough life experience yet. (They usually experience it post-college, when they are in the working world.) The reason you are experiencing it now is because you are "ahead of the curve" in life experience. I too experienced this - being thought of and treated as older than I was when I was 17 & working as an EMT - no one expected a 17 year old to be doing this - since I took on the responsibilities of someone older, I was treated as the age I was acting. And since you have more "India experience" than your new 28 year old friend, of course your new friends are surprised that you are so much younger than they are! So, it really isn't "India Age", it is "life age". I guess you get your precociousness (especially in the arena of wanting to help others) from dear old proud Mama Panda! :~) <3

BTW, please check your Facebook wall too, as I have something else to ask that you may not want everyone else to see!

Love, love, love,

Mom Panda

P.S. My word is vistiles. Kind of like vittles. What kind of vittles (food) should I have in the house for you when you come home?

Mona said...

Stephanie,

I have to admit, I haven't been very good about checking your blog very often cause this semester has been, hell basically. For some reason, you entered my thoughts as I'm sitting here in class and it's boring and you're not, so I thought I'd catch up on your life. Reading about your experiences makes me feel lame for being in the middle of Iowa, but I'm glad I at least can experience through your words what you have. I know you don't want to leave, but I want to see you. I've got 5 days between when college ends and when I leave for Iran, so I expect to see your shining face when you're home and I'm home.

I also have picked up a bit of Bangla from some kids on campus, so we'll have to chat. :)

&hugs,
Mona

Anonymous said...

Oh, gosh, I miss you.

I think your theory of India Age is really interesting. Although, even back here in the States, I wouldn't believe you were 19 if I didn't know you. You've never exactly acted like the average teenager. ;-) But I think it's incredibly interesting that people who have been there longer are 'older.'

As for the temperature- I know. 100 degrees in what you hope for in the middle of summer here. It gets up to 115 degrees here, apparently. I might not be looking forward to that.

Man, I wish I could live on $2 a day! I'm really short on money right now, and I hate it. I miss just having a 'comfort zone' with my money.

Oh, gosh, you come home in 10 days. It's in my calendar. I'm emceeing a show that day for elementary school kids...yup. Aaaand...I got to walk my serval today. :-) I miss you!

Porbuct: a latticed bucket. Like a portcullis, but in bucket form!